Hello again my dear, dear girls!
I have a very deep and intense topic to discuss with you all. God has convicted me with this over the last week and He has brought light to so much that I have recently been blind to.
Before I jump headlong into this, I’d like to apologize ahead of time. I’m sorry if this offends you, that is the farthest thing from my intentions in this discussion. I truly am concerned for you all, and I feel like I MUST bring this to the surface, this lie has hidden itself in our culture for too long. God has laid this on my heart to speak out on it, so I will do whatever I have to do to get this said.
I love each and every one of you so very deeply, please keep this in mind as you read ahead. Understand that I am not sitting here pointing fingers and accusing you, for I am to blame in this as well, but I am bringing this to you all in love and concern.
I am praying that you girls will be able to listen with open hearts and let God speak to you.
(Please stop to pray that God will show you what He wants you to see, before you read on.)
Now to business…
As I said before, God has convicted me deeply with this topic. It is so much more intense than I had first thought.
As we have grown up we have constantly been ‘fed’ the belief that romance, crushes, boyfriends, dating, holding hands, sex and falling in love is expected of you in your teen and young adult years. We have heard this from TV shows, Movies, Books, magazines, Music, Advertising, Friends and even some Family members. Everything we see/hear seems to be connected to sex, romance or relationships somehow.
We are so used to it that it starts getting to us. We start having crushes on our friends. We start looking at guys in magazines and think “Ohhh, he’s cute!”. We walk down the street checking out guys our age (or sometimes, not even that), appraising him with our eyes. We start giggling at our guy friends when they talk to us. We watch romance movies and wish that girl getting kissed by someone was us. We start dressing in ways that would get us noticed by ‘cool guys’. We read books with a hero who is seemingly ‘perfect’ and start day dreaming.
We have been contaminated with the world’s sin of want of romance!
Now I know you’re probably getting mad already saying “Ok Danica, what is wrong with crushes, boyfriends, dating wisely, and falling in love?”
And my answer to you is “Because they all are lies!”
They are distractions from the truth, they are keeping us from God’s time that He has given us as Godly single young ladies.
“How?” you ask.
In SO many ways!!!
#1- If we are thinking about a recent ‘Crush’ and our hearts and thoughts are concentrated on said cute boy, how can we be Servants of God and give Him all of us; heart, mind, and soul? God tells us to love Him with ALL of our hearts, and if we are giving our hearts away to random guys, we can’t give Him all of our hearts, just pieces of it because we have given it away the rest.
“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” ~Deuteronomy 6:5
#2- The Bible clearly says that thinking guys are hot, or having someone ‘catch your eye’, or even having a crush is LUST! I know that it seems like a simple thought about a guy being hot is not the same as ‘lust’, but the heart motivation is the same sin, there is NO getting around it in any way.
“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” ~Matthew 5:28 (This says men, but it is the same way for women looking at men as well!)
#3- Simply day dreaming about a guy you know (or even don’t know) is allowing our hearts to be given before their time. It may not seem like it, we can argue against it all we want, but the truth is clear.
“Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart,” ~1st Peter 1:22
#4- God truly does call us to set ourselves apart from ‘The lies of love’ (boyfriends, dating, crushes… etc.). He tells us to stay away from it in this verse;
“So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” ~2nd Timothy 22:2
#5- Our hearts and feelings lie to us. God calls us to THINK and use wisdom in our relationships, instead of liking a fellow brother and letting that be ‘proof’ enough to claim love over him.
“And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.” ~Philippians 1:9-11
There are tons more references in the Bible where God is calling us to keep from the world’s lies of romance, passion, and love, these are just a few.
I’d like to hear your thoughts and ideas about this, after reading through these verses.
Before I let you all go, I’d like to apologize from the bottom of my heart for ever encouraging you in any of these ways. (crushes, boyfriends, looking at ‘hot guys’, laughing over actors who ‘look good’, or even day dreaming over future relationships.)
Until now, I had not realized just how serious this sin is. I am SO sorry, please forgive me, my dear friends.
I’ll come back with tons more, God has shown me SOOOO much, and is calling me to bring this out in the open, so I shall.
For now, I shall leave you girls to think and pray about this. Please feel free to comment!
*hugs to you all*
With all my love,
~Danica
Maidens Of Modesty 