Archive for February, 2008

I burst through the front door out onto the cement porch of our old 1925 brick house. The sun was shining, and the sky was BRIGHT blue with fluffy white clouds, a perfect spring day! I was probably the happiest 8 year old there was. (Or at least I liked to think so)
Mother had bought new flowers to plant throughout the yard, like she always did.

Mum was out in the side yard on her hands and knees digging up dirt and planting the little buds of flowers in the ground. I was excited to help her.
This year was different, this year I was a ‘big girl’ and mum was giving me my own flower to take care of by myself! She had given me a small Peony plant to grow in my little garden.
Mum looked up at me, patted the ground next to her and asked “Come help me, sis?”.

She showed me how to get the little roots into the ground, gently cover them with dirt, and pat the dirt down firmly around it. My little peony was now getting used to it’s new ‘home’.
I was thrilled! (You can’t blame me! “Your own little flower” is a big deal to an 8 year old! *laughs* )
I went into the big old white wood garage to fetch my watering can. I filled it up from the nearest garden hose, and took it over to give ‘my little flower’ a drink.

For weeks I babied my little flower. I named it “Lucy” after my favorite character from the Snoopy comic.
I loved to watch it grow day by day, bigger and bigger. First from a small baby bud, then ever so slowly into a mostly full bloomed flower!
I would proudly show grandma and all my friends my flower, and they would “ooh” and “ahh” accordingly. I was a proud parent. πŸ˜‰

As it would get bigger, I could slowly start to see the petals start to peek out and show their true beauty. One by one they would unfold and bloom into this exquisite flower.

My little neighbor boy, Mitchell, loved to tease me. He was a large 7 year old who thought it was fun to torment kids. He used to have his buddies around and come over to my yard when I had a neighbor girl over, they would gang up on us and tell us that they were going to kiss us whether we liked it or not, and would chase us around the block trying to catch us.
I don’t know what was appealing about tormenting us girls, especially since some of us had decent right hooks.

One day Mitchell was feeling quite mischievous and was threatening to hit me with a baseball bat if I didn’t let him play on my swing. (*sighs* What is it that makes boys think that they can solve everything by physical force?) I was rather mad, and told him “No he still couldn’t play on my swing set today” and ran into the house to keep from being creamed by his bat. He was a boy of his word, and I knew he’d probably hit me if he felt like it.

He was mad, and I knew it. But I was a stubborn little girl, and when I said no I meant it!
Twenty minutes later I felt it was probably safe to go back outside, since his dad was now home and had called him into supper.
I went back outside to play again, and go see if Ashley (my favorite neighbor) could come out and play with me.
When I found out that Ashley was not done with dinner yet, I went over to check on my flower to water it again.

As I rounded the edge of the house, I stopped dead in my tracks. There it was… my flower! It had been plucked, petal by petal. Dozens of its precious petals all scattered around it. It hadn’t even fully bloomed yet!
My dear peony robbed of its beauty and thrown aside as if it was garbage.

To say the least, I was not so nice to Mitchell after that. I was rather quick tempered back then (… still am. But mercifully, God has given me the self-control to keep from losing my cool. *winks*), and I didn’t have much grace for Mitchell’s cruelty towards my little flower.

The reason, ladies (and gentlemen) that I am telling you all this story is to explain to you that our purity is like my peony. (I know that sounds like a bad analogy, but hear me out on this please. *laughs*)
We are each given a ‘flower’ of purity to take care of, protect and watch grow in beauty.

But, if we are not careful with it our culture’s views on “romance” will, like my neighbor boy, pluck our flower one petal at a time, until the beauty of it is scattered into the wind.
Even now it threatens to destroy your flower….
-Romance movies that tell us how a “romance” should be in Hollywood’s opinion. (*plucks one petal*)
-Ads on the television that promote a woman in a sexual way. (*plucks another petal*)
-We allow ourselves to fall into a crush and start to like someone in a romantic way without focusing it on Christ. (*plucks another petal*)
-“Drooling” over an actor over his looks. (*plucks another petal*)
-Allowing our eye to be caught by a girl in skimpy clothing on the street. (*plucks yet another petal*)

Slowly, one by one, our petals are being plucked…

Someone asked me “If it’s just for fun and not permanent, why can’t we just have little romances? Just have a boyfriend for a while, don’t kiss or have sex, just be boyfriend and girlfriend for a while… there’s no harm in it!”
But the truth is, yes, there IS harm in it.
By allowing ourselves to be involved in that, WE are the ones plucking our own petals off our flowers of purity. Soon, we won’t have anything left of our flower but stems and leaves.

That, my dear friends, is why protecting ourselves is important. Even if we seem like we’re over-protecting ourselves sometimes.
We have so much to lose, and it is so important that we shield and protect our flowers of purity. We need to baby it and nurture it, only then can we have the pleasure of watching it grow and bloom to its full beauty.

Now, I know the boys have probably lost interest in this, or think that I am only writing to girls, but I am not. Your purity is just as precious as ours.
Some of you are probably humiliated to think of your purity as a flower, and that’s fine, I understand. So think of it as a jewel instead. Try to imagine yourself as a Knight protecting a precious jewel that was given to you to keep safe. πŸ˜‰

Whatever analogy you want to use when you think of your purity, I hope you all join me in the fight to protect it.
It is not ours to play with, we’re saving it for our future spouses, and most importantly for God.
I assure you, it will not be a vain quest! πŸ˜‰

*hugs to all* I hope this makes sense!
Any questions and comments are always welcome, as usual.

Blessings from the Most High God, the One who has bestowed the sweet and dear gift or your purity to you!
In Christ’s love and my own,


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Hello again all my dear friends!

This week has been interesting for us. Again and again we have been allowed to witness God’s everlasting mercy and grace for us!
It has been a delight to be able to share in this with my family and friends. God has done some amazing things before in the past, with my family, so you could say that I should be used to it by now.Β  I pray I never am. I love to be amazed at God’s work no matter how big or small!

Anyway, back to the point… I have been pondering on what to write about next. I am still SO full of information and ideas on Relationships, Faith and True Love that I cannot decide where to go to next because I have so many directions.

So here are my questions to you guys.
What do you want to read about next?
What questions do you have about ‘The Lies of Love’?
What are you struggling with that you would like to discuss?
Would you like more stories, bible verses, or ramblings?

What is it that you think about the most when it comes to Relationships and True Love?

Please just post your questions, or topics to talk about, I’d love to discuss it with you!
Can’t wait to hear from you all…
Many blessings and much love from the Father above!
Your sister in Christ,

β€œDear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us
and his love is made complete in us.” ~1st John 4:11-12

“The Lies of Love” blogs at-

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Hello again all my dear friends!

I hope you ALL had a wonderful Valentines day, and that you were able to bask in the love of Christ instead of the love of man! πŸ™‚
We had a great Valentines day (despite some weird bug visit our house, making us all sick), we were able to enjoy Christ’s love in each other and had fun opening little ‘gifts’ that we had made for each other. It blessed us all to witness the little shows of love that the other members of the family were showing each other.

Have any of you read (my adopted older brother) Dave’s blog for this week? ( http://aussiejoecool.livejournal.com/1764.html )
His post on Love in general was really good, and got me thinking…
When most people think of love they automatically think of Romantic love.
But Romantic love is such a small part of love. Love comes in SO many different kinds of ways!
It can be from anything as great as God’s love for us, parent’s love for their child, pure love between a married couple, family love for each other… etc… to something small like a love for a pet, love for specific items, love for an activity.
Yet, it is what we DO with each of these loves that makes them either wonderfully beautiful or dangerously treacherous.

Allow me to give some examples…

A friend of mine had to go watch her cousin go through a horrible experience.
Kelly (her cousin) was a sweet little 16 year old Christian girl, she was beautiful and loved to do fun things. Her fun-loving nature was attractive, and she got a LOT of attention from guys. She thought that all the attention from them was funny and she liked being babied by them.
One specific guy decided to get her attention and hang out with her a lot. He convinced her that he loved her, and she believed herself in love with him. He was attractive and made her laugh, and with his excessive attention to her he made her feel special… she liked that.

Kelly convinced herself that she was in love with 19 year old Ben, and that he really loved her. But instead of revolving their love on Christ and enjoying Christ’s love through their own love, they were selfish and only considered what they both wanted out of the relationship.
Ben told Kelly that he’d love her all his life and would never like another girl. She believed him, and thought that since they both loved each other they must be made for each other, and their relationship would last forever. (It all adds up, right?) So when Ben asked Kelly to sleep with him, saying that it would be ok since they knew they would be together and get married some day, she decided to go along with it.

Kelly is now pregnant. Ben left her, he got what he wanted out of the relationship and is out looking for another girl to see what he can get out of her.
Because of her decisions for not basing her love with Ben in a way that glorifies the Lord, and involve Christ in their relationship, she is now facing the life of a single parent at just 17.
She had to drop out of high-school because of her pregnancy. She will not be able to go to college. She won’t be able to get a good job right now either. She is facing a life alone as a single mother of 17.

Sadly this is happening all over the place. Kelly is not the only one who is suffering from this treacherous love.
I understand that Kelly’s choice is not one that you would most likely make. But Kelly was not “the type of girl to make that choice” either. She was a nice little Christian girl, she just lost herself in a fake “love” that she had created for Ben, and she reacted with what she had thought was love.

We can easily fall in love with something impure. Our feelings like to lie to us sometimes, and so we lose ourselves in it without thinking. Just because it “feels good”.
We need to make an extra effort to include God in our relationships. God needs to be the base and center of EVERY single love we have. (Even if it’s just for a pet. ;))

So here are my questions for today…
Do you include God in all of your relationships?
Does your relationship with your parents reflect and glorify Christ?
How about your relationships with your friends?
Brothers and sisters?
How can you turn your love for people or things around so that it blesses Christ?

Now, before you guys jump to conclusions I just want to clarify something.
I am not claiming to have all the answers here… and I’m DEFINITELY not trying to be the little religious girl who wants to be the know-it-all. *laughs* FAR from it!
I will be the first one to tell you that all my relationships and loves that I have do not reflect God to the extent that they should.
I’m in this with you!!! We’re in this journey together, building each other up and encouraging each other to focus on God and allow Him to lead you! πŸ˜€

Please feel free to leave comments, I’d love to discuss this with you guys!
Many blessings and much love in Christ,

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