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Hello all my fellow Christians!

I have really been impacted recently to write blogs on intense ‘Hardcore Christianity’ topics that have been on my heart. (Note: My purpose in writing these is to encourage Christians in their walk with God and to help them build their own knowledge of The Most High. I have no intention to appear “holier than thou”, because I know I am NOT! I just want to encourage people to have a deep, burning passion and love for their Lord and Savior!) I’m not going to be formal, and I’m not going to stand up on a soap box and preach at you. I want to stand among you, as a fellow Christian seeking His face, and share my heart with everyone.
Quick warning: Because I am not blogging in a more “formal way”, my passion sticks out like a sore thumb in this blog. I have been told that sometimes my passion can be overwhelming in a bad way, I pray that it is not that way in this blog, but I feel like I just need to warn you that it could be possible. πŸ˜‰

As some of you know God really changed me last January (Jan 2008), He put a burning fire in my heart and He gave me a burning desire and passion to learn more about Him and His amazing ways.
3 of my closest friends (Paula, Chad and Drew) made an effort to be right by my side, helping me learn more about God and encouraging me in my quest to know more about God. Thankfully, God showed me that I was not the only teenager/young adult out there searching to find more of God and to know Him better on a deeper level. (They were the only teenagers/young adults that were close to me that were on the same quest.)

The enemy tries his best to kill any passion in us for God, he smothers it with our ‘worries of life’. Ie: Our jobs, our families, our relationships, our houses, our stuff, our schedules, our education… what we would call “normal every day things”. Please don’t get me wrong, I do not think that this is wrong to be concerned about all of these things! I just believe that we have become TOO concerned with them. They distract us from our true purpose: To love God and Glorify Him!

Before Father changed my heart completely for Him, I knew I was a Christian. I read my bible, I discussed God and my faith with my friends, I witnessed to others who I met, I loved God, I sang worship songs… etc. But I did not even comprehend just how deep my relationship with Christ could go.
I started to feel incomplete! There was this feeling of needing something, something missing in my life. (I thought it was a normal part of growing up, being older and getting ready to be married in several years time. *laughs* I was quite mistaken, thankfully)
The missing hole was God, and my relationship with Him.
After my heart started changing and my passion grew deeper I realized how much JOY and strength I felt through Him. The missing feeling was filled. My life had a deeper and truer purpose!!!! I felt like I could explode with my love and passion I had for the Lord. Even now, 8 months later, every time I think about the things He has done for us I get so excited I sometimes feel like I cannot breathe!

I am not trying to say that everyone should have the same feelings in their relationship with God as I do, or even go about it the same way as I did.
Each person’s relationship with their King is very different. Mine was based on joy, love and passion. Others could be a serious awareness of His suffering, or a deep love of theology, it’s all different and fits your personality perfectly!

For me, it was SO hard to know where to start building my relationship with God. I KNEW it was what I had to do… but HOW?!
What book is there that could be “Building Your Relationship With God for Dummies”? *laughs* There wasn’t even a “how to” in the bible.
…. or was there?
How many times did I hear that bible verse “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. Or what man is there among you who, when his son asks for a loaf, will give him a stone?” ~Matthew 7:7-9

Wait… what does that mean?!
It means YOU ask Him to come to help you build a relationship with Him. When YOU ask Him to help you, you WILL be answered!
“What man is there among you who, when his son asks for a load, will give him a stone?” He’s saying here: “If you mortal humans can love your children so much that if one of them asks you for something, your heart melts and you are MOST willing to help them get what they have asked! How much more loving am I, than you? -Infinitely! Then how much more is it likely for Me to answer My children with what they have asked, than you with yours?” Of course He has said it in a much nicer way than I can. πŸ˜› *laughs*

He loves us SOOOO much, beyond all comprehension, that He desires to have a deep relationship with us! We are the ones who will not seek Him.
HEY!!! One second… I have been taught most of my life, by my church, that God comes to me and will bring me closer to Him when He’s ready, I can’t hurry Him or do anything but just wait, blah blah blah.
That is not true!
This bible verse (and many others -just ask for them if you would like, I will include them) tell us the opposite!
Besides, think about it… What kind of a God would He be if He forced Himself on us when He’s ready for us? Hm? Honestly!
If a father only let his kids come into his sight when he felt like seeing them, we would think he was a JERK! Father lets US come to HIM when we are ready, when we want, when we desire to be close to Him. That is more comforting than to think that He would bring us closer to Him whenever He decides, isn’t it?!

So!! That should be the first chapter for Building Your Relationship With God for Dummies. πŸ˜€ Ha ha! Ok, so yes, I’m just kidding.
BUT! It is the first step we should make when we are wanting to deepen our relationship with God.
Lets add it to the list.
Step #1: ASK HIM! SEEK HIM! Pound on the doors of heaven! Seek His throne and ask Him to reveal Himself to us and give us a love and passion for Him beyond what we could imagine! That He would show us more of His character.

The other day I was thinking about relationships. Not romantic relationships, knowing you love them and they love you. Not family relationships, living with them and knowing them better than anyone else because you’re family! But close friendship relationships.
I thought about a lot of my friends, and my different levels of relationships that I have with them now. I asked myself what made my close relationships thrive, and my acquaintances relationships drag? What could I do to help both of them thrive?
What makes them thrive… hmm, sharing my heart with them and hearing things from their hearts. Listening as much, or more than talking myself. Making an effort to contact them, instead of waiting for them to contact me. Oi! One second… what if I could apply this to my relationship with GOD?! (*insert brilliant idea dramatic music here*)
That’s it! One of the ways to build my relationship with Him, making an effort to talk to Him, sharing my heart, and listening to His (both in prayer, and in reading the bible).
At first, this stumped me. How on earth could I do that? The answer should have been blindingly obvious, but I guess my sin was keeping me from seeing it.
How else do I start conversation with my friends? -I just talk to them! I ask them questions, I talk about my day, I ask them about themselves, I talk about myself, ask them what’s on their heart and share what’s on mine… etc.
Why can’t it be the same with God? I just talk to Him! I share my heart with Him, talk to Him about random things, ask Him questions about Himself, I literally discuss everything with Him now!

When Christ died for us, He became the bridge to close the gap between God’s heart and ours. Now that we have had Christ’s blood pay the price for our sins, we have the privilege (even sometimes the right) to talk to God whenever we want! He has not limited out time with Him. He’s not like the Muslim’s “Allah”… we don’t have a time limit of 5 times a day to pray to God.
He is available 24/7!!!! Thank the Lord for that too!
I cannot tell you how many times I have woken up in the middle in the night and just needed to lay something at the foot of His throne, or lay my burden down at the cross.
I’m sure you all know what I mean when I say that we talk to ourselves all the time? That voice in our heads, not our conscience but our thoughts that just talk to us. What if we take our thoughts and that conversation to ourselves and turn it towards God? What if we add God into our discussions with ourselves? Instead of talking to ourselves, we talk to God.
We can’t kid ourselves, all those thoughts that we say to ourselves He can hear. If He can already hear us then why not just direct them at Him while we’re at it? Wow! Wait a minute… that’s praying!
YES IT IS!!!! All that chatter that we say to ourselves can be turned into prayer! Just direct it to Him who hears us!

OK!!! So add that to the list as well.
Step #2: Talk to Him! Just pour our hearts out at His feet, give our all to Him. He’s the one friend that we’ll have that we will have 100% guarantee for their confidence. He won’t blab our hearts desires to anyone else. πŸ˜‰

Something I struggled with a lot was wondering WHY He would love me. My constant question of “How can a God like Him love me? I’m nothing… I can’t love Him like He loves me, so why even try to love Him enough?” kept me from drawing closer to Him. I put myself in position of Servant, and left it at that.
My church had always taught that God was so infinitely beyond us that we shouldn’t even try to love Him enough.
Well… it IS true that we will NEVER love Him enough, but that should NEVER be an excuse to stop trying! Yeah so we won’t love Him enough, so what?! We should still try!!!
We won’t live forever, does that give us a right to stop breathing and keep our heart from beating? -NOOO!!!!!
It’s a fact that we can’t love Him to the amount that He deserves, but we should NEVER let us keep from giving Him our all and trying our best.

Back to the cross. Another thing that Christ did when building the bridge between God and us was give us the “right” to have Father’s love for us. Father loves us unconditionally, meaning there is NOTHING that you can do to keep Him from loving you. (Sorry, I know that’s disappointing. πŸ˜‰ LOL! -Just kidding)
How many times does the bible call us His children? Actually… I don’t know the exact number. πŸ˜› But I know it’s plastered ALL over that Book!!! He constantly says that He is our Father, and we are His children.
Ask anyone who is a parent, their child is the most precious thing to them on earth. If their house burned down, they grab their kids… not their jewels, books, laptops, or favorite coffee mug first. Their kids are their hearts.
Parents cannot stand having their children die before them. How many people do you know who have been destroyed emotionally when their children die? PLENTY!!! Now how many people do you know who have been emotionally broken when their receptionist or Secretary dies? Umm… none?! Or at least very few. I mean, yes, of course it is heart breaking, but NOT to the level that losing a child is.
We, as humans, are attached to our children more than we are to our friends, receptionists, or Secretaries. πŸ˜‰
God is the same way. He loves us as children, not servants, Secretaries or receptionists. We are special in His sight! We’re not just distant friends of His, we’re HIS children, close to His heart, more precious in His sight than anything else!

I still struggle with seeing myself as precious in His sight. But it’s so important for us to see us as His children! The enemy wants us to stop as “Servant”, and not see ourselves any farther than that. He doesn’t want us to think about us being His children, there’s such a HUGE difference and the mindset behind is truly could change our entire relationship with Him.
How close do you think Kings get to their servants? Not very… How intimate do Kings get with their children? Extremely, they are most precious to Him. YOU… ARE… PRECIOUS… TO… HIM!!!!!!
Stop for a moment and think about that. You, a random human being, are… precious to the Most High God? I don’t know about you, but the idea just thrills me to the core! I cannot help but grinning at the mere thought of it! What a picture!
But it’s TRUTH! The bible screams it!
“Nevertheless, the Lord your God was not willing to listen to (them, your enemies), but the Lord your God turned the curse into a blessing for you because the Lord your God LOVES you. ” ~Deuteronomy 23:5
“Who is a God like You, who pardons iniquity and passes over the rebellious act of the remnant of His possession? He does not retain His anger forever, because He delights in unchanging love.” ~Micah 7:18
“”The Lord your God is in your midst, a victorious warrior He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in His love, He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.” ~Zephaniah 3:17
Everyone knows this one: “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.” ~John 3:16
“And hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Romans 5:5
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” ~Romans 5:8
“For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” ~Romans 8:38-39
“But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved)” ~Ephesians 2:4-5

We can see the patterns here, “God LOVES us”! Hands down! That is fact, it’s in the bible and therefore it is beyond contestation.
Hardcore fact for you there.
As the Hebrews say: Selah. (“Stop… and think about that”)

The enemy wants to distract you from that, he will make every effort to keep you from seeing how much your Lord God loves you. He’ll do everything in his power to remove you from Father’s arms and make you think that you are unimportant. How much more important do you need to be than a child of the King of Kings? πŸ™‚ I can think of no position that I would love more than that.

So step #3: Know that you are precious in His sight. YOU are loved by a MOST HIGH GOD! And there is NOTHING that you can do to remove yourself from that position. Even if you do not believe it is true, it still is a hardcore fact. πŸ™‚ You… are… His.

Since Father started working in me, and reclaimed my heart as His own, I had felt so alone among people. Hardly ANYONE shared my newly found passion for God. It was like I was a fish, released from the little pond out into the Ocean.
God placed Drew and Chad in my life to encourage me, I would have been beaten back down into my little pond by the weight of the world’s pressure if it were not for them. He then brought Paula into my life, she was so similar to me it was almost scary! πŸ˜‰ *laughs* Through His faithfulness, by the friends He had placed in my life, He helped me to grow in Him.
With this blog, I hope to encourage you and help you know that you are NOT alone in this! This is something God is doing, calling Christians who have had places in our hearts for Him that have been dormant for so long and building us up in a way that glorifies His name! Giving us a passion to spread among our home town and the Nations!!! (AMEN!)

I’m not trying to challenge any one’s faith, and I’m not looking to pick a fight. I have NO intention of offending anyone. My purpose is just to encourage! πŸ™‚
I welcome ALL comments or questions, and especially all your thoughts on this blog. I’d really appreciate it.

Blessings to all of you, my dear friends!
Through Christ alone and in HIS love,


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I burst through the front door out onto the cement porch of our old 1925 brick house. The sun was shining, and the sky was BRIGHT blue with fluffy white clouds, a perfect spring day! I was probably the happiest 8 year old there was. (Or at least I liked to think so)
Mother had bought new flowers to plant throughout the yard, like she always did.

Mum was out in the side yard on her hands and knees digging up dirt and planting the little buds of flowers in the ground. I was excited to help her.
This year was different, this year I was a ‘big girl’ and mum was giving me my own flower to take care of by myself! She had given me a small Peony plant to grow in my little garden.
Mum looked up at me, patted the ground next to her and asked “Come help me, sis?”.

She showed me how to get the little roots into the ground, gently cover them with dirt, and pat the dirt down firmly around it. My little peony was now getting used to it’s new ‘home’.
I was thrilled! (You can’t blame me! “Your own little flower” is a big deal to an 8 year old! *laughs* )
I went into the big old white wood garage to fetch my watering can. I filled it up from the nearest garden hose, and took it over to give ‘my little flower’ a drink.

For weeks I babied my little flower. I named it “Lucy” after my favorite character from the Snoopy comic.
I loved to watch it grow day by day, bigger and bigger. First from a small baby bud, then ever so slowly into a mostly full bloomed flower!
I would proudly show grandma and all my friends my flower, and they would “ooh” and “ahh” accordingly. I was a proud parent. πŸ˜‰

As it would get bigger, I could slowly start to see the petals start to peek out and show their true beauty. One by one they would unfold and bloom into this exquisite flower.

My little neighbor boy, Mitchell, loved to tease me. He was a large 7 year old who thought it was fun to torment kids. He used to have his buddies around and come over to my yard when I had a neighbor girl over, they would gang up on us and tell us that they were going to kiss us whether we liked it or not, and would chase us around the block trying to catch us.
I don’t know what was appealing about tormenting us girls, especially since some of us had decent right hooks.

One day Mitchell was feeling quite mischievous and was threatening to hit me with a baseball bat if I didn’t let him play on my swing. (*sighs* What is it that makes boys think that they can solve everything by physical force?) I was rather mad, and told him “No he still couldn’t play on my swing set today” and ran into the house to keep from being creamed by his bat. He was a boy of his word, and I knew he’d probably hit me if he felt like it.

He was mad, and I knew it. But I was a stubborn little girl, and when I said no I meant it!
Twenty minutes later I felt it was probably safe to go back outside, since his dad was now home and had called him into supper.
I went back outside to play again, and go see if Ashley (my favorite neighbor) could come out and play with me.
When I found out that Ashley was not done with dinner yet, I went over to check on my flower to water it again.

As I rounded the edge of the house, I stopped dead in my tracks. There it was… my flower! It had been plucked, petal by petal. Dozens of its precious petals all scattered around it. It hadn’t even fully bloomed yet!
My dear peony robbed of its beauty and thrown aside as if it was garbage.

To say the least, I was not so nice to Mitchell after that. I was rather quick tempered back then (… still am. But mercifully, God has given me the self-control to keep from losing my cool. *winks*), and I didn’t have much grace for Mitchell’s cruelty towards my little flower.

The reason, ladies (and gentlemen) that I am telling you all this story is to explain to you that our purity is like my peony. (I know that sounds like a bad analogy, but hear me out on this please. *laughs*)
We are each given a ‘flower’ of purity to take care of, protect and watch grow in beauty.

But, if we are not careful with it our culture’s views on “romance” will, like my neighbor boy, pluck our flower one petal at a time, until the beauty of it is scattered into the wind.
Even now it threatens to destroy your flower….
-Romance movies that tell us how a “romance” should be in Hollywood’s opinion. (*plucks one petal*)
-Ads on the television that promote a woman in a sexual way. (*plucks another petal*)
-We allow ourselves to fall into a crush and start to like someone in a romantic way without focusing it on Christ. (*plucks another petal*)
-“Drooling” over an actor over his looks. (*plucks another petal*)
-Allowing our eye to be caught by a girl in skimpy clothing on the street. (*plucks yet another petal*)

Slowly, one by one, our petals are being plucked…

Someone asked me “If it’s just for fun and not permanent, why can’t we just have little romances? Just have a boyfriend for a while, don’t kiss or have sex, just be boyfriend and girlfriend for a while… there’s no harm in it!”
But the truth is, yes, there IS harm in it.
By allowing ourselves to be involved in that, WE are the ones plucking our own petals off our flowers of purity. Soon, we won’t have anything left of our flower but stems and leaves.

That, my dear friends, is why protecting ourselves is important. Even if we seem like we’re over-protecting ourselves sometimes.
We have so much to lose, and it is so important that we shield and protect our flowers of purity. We need to baby it and nurture it, only then can we have the pleasure of watching it grow and bloom to its full beauty.

Now, I know the boys have probably lost interest in this, or think that I am only writing to girls, but I am not. Your purity is just as precious as ours.
Some of you are probably humiliated to think of your purity as a flower, and that’s fine, I understand. So think of it as a jewel instead. Try to imagine yourself as a Knight protecting a precious jewel that was given to you to keep safe. πŸ˜‰

Whatever analogy you want to use when you think of your purity, I hope you all join me in the fight to protect it.
It is not ours to play with, we’re saving it for our future spouses, and most importantly for God.
I assure you, it will not be a vain quest! πŸ˜‰

*hugs to all* I hope this makes sense!
Any questions and comments are always welcome, as usual.

Blessings from the Most High God, the One who has bestowed the sweet and dear gift or your purity to you!
In Christ’s love and my own,

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Hello again all my dear friends!

I hope you ALL had a wonderful Valentines day, and that you were able to bask in the love of Christ instead of the love of man! πŸ™‚
We had a great Valentines day (despite some weird bug visit our house, making us all sick), we were able to enjoy Christ’s love in each other and had fun opening little ‘gifts’ that we had made for each other. It blessed us all to witness the little shows of love that the other members of the family were showing each other.

Have any of you read (my adopted older brother) Dave’s blog for this week? ( http://aussiejoecool.livejournal.com/1764.html )
His post on Love in general was really good, and got me thinking…
When most people think of love they automatically think of Romantic love.
But Romantic love is such a small part of love. Love comes in SO many different kinds of ways!
It can be from anything as great as God’s love for us, parent’s love for their child, pure love between a married couple, family love for each other… etc… to something small like a love for a pet, love for specific items, love for an activity.
Yet, it is what we DO with each of these loves that makes them either wonderfully beautiful or dangerously treacherous.

Allow me to give some examples…

A friend of mine had to go watch her cousin go through a horrible experience.
Kelly (her cousin) was a sweet little 16 year old Christian girl, she was beautiful and loved to do fun things. Her fun-loving nature was attractive, and she got a LOT of attention from guys. She thought that all the attention from them was funny and she liked being babied by them.
One specific guy decided to get her attention and hang out with her a lot. He convinced her that he loved her, and she believed herself in love with him. He was attractive and made her laugh, and with his excessive attention to her he made her feel special… she liked that.

Kelly convinced herself that she was in love with 19 year old Ben, and that he really loved her. But instead of revolving their love on Christ and enjoying Christ’s love through their own love, they were selfish and only considered what they both wanted out of the relationship.
Ben told Kelly that he’d love her all his life and would never like another girl. She believed him, and thought that since they both loved each other they must be made for each other, and their relationship would last forever. (It all adds up, right?) So when Ben asked Kelly to sleep with him, saying that it would be ok since they knew they would be together and get married some day, she decided to go along with it.

Kelly is now pregnant. Ben left her, he got what he wanted out of the relationship and is out looking for another girl to see what he can get out of her.
Because of her decisions for not basing her love with Ben in a way that glorifies the Lord, and involve Christ in their relationship, she is now facing the life of a single parent at just 17.
She had to drop out of high-school because of her pregnancy. She will not be able to go to college. She won’t be able to get a good job right now either. She is facing a life alone as a single mother of 17.

Sadly this is happening all over the place. Kelly is not the only one who is suffering from this treacherous love.
I understand that Kelly’s choice is not one that you would most likely make. But Kelly was not “the type of girl to make that choice” either. She was a nice little Christian girl, she just lost herself in a fake “love” that she had created for Ben, and she reacted with what she had thought was love.

We can easily fall in love with something impure. Our feelings like to lie to us sometimes, and so we lose ourselves in it without thinking. Just because it “feels good”.
We need to make an extra effort to include God in our relationships. God needs to be the base and center of EVERY single love we have. (Even if it’s just for a pet. ;))

So here are my questions for today…
Do you include God in all of your relationships?
Does your relationship with your parents reflect and glorify Christ?
How about your relationships with your friends?
Brothers and sisters?
How can you turn your love for people or things around so that it blesses Christ?

Now, before you guys jump to conclusions I just want to clarify something.
I am not claiming to have all the answers here… and I’m DEFINITELY not trying to be the little religious girl who wants to be the know-it-all. *laughs* FAR from it!
I will be the first one to tell you that all my relationships and loves that I have do not reflect God to the extent that they should.
I’m in this with you!!! We’re in this journey together, building each other up and encouraging each other to focus on God and allow Him to lead you! πŸ˜€

Please feel free to leave comments, I’d love to discuss this with you guys!
Many blessings and much love in Christ,

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Hello again everyone! I hope you are all well and enjoying the amazing mercy of the Lord!
Yes, I am back for the third part, and I trust that I shall be back for much more to come. πŸ˜‰

I ended up with a lot of comments (and emails) on the last two articles, I appreciate all the comments everyone, thank you.
I also appreciate all of the support, I have received a lot of letters, notes, and words of encouragement from several people and I just wanted to thank you guys for those, they have blessed me so much. Truly, I do not think I could go forward so wholeheartedly without them. *hugs* God bless you guys!

Anyway before I continue I’d like to encourage you all to take a moment and pray.
Pray that the Lord speaks to you and shows you what He wants to reveal to you at this time. Pray that He guides you in your journey through seeking the truth in relationships and love. Pray that He would give you the wisdom to know the difference between His voice and the voice of your own flesh. (ouch, that one I pray for over and over, as it is one of my downfalls.)

Ok, now back to the actual topic.
I have been asked “If crushes are lustful and, therefore, sin, then how do I keep from having one, as it is my natural reaction to someone I like”.
This is something to consider, if what we are used to is sin, then how do we resist that?

Here is how I see it:
We are called the ‘Children of God’, we are brothers and sisters in Christ. We are a family!
(Yes, if you are a Christian, you have more relatives that you were not aware of. Take a moment and breathe, because you don’t have to worry about getting them ALL a present for Christmas, and you don’t have to send out all those birthday cards. *laughs* -Just kidding)
If we are a family, is it not a revolting thought to look at your brother or sister with a romantic eye?
Why do we look at each other as possible girlfriends/boyfriends, instead of siblings?
I don’t want to develop a crush on my little brother, that’s GROSS!!!!!
I hope you all are as disgusted with that thought as I am… *shudders at the thought*

Now, before you get carried away with your thoughts, I want to explain something.
I’m NOT implying that we NEVER get married, or take a relationship to a romantic level. I, myself, am looking forward to
having a romantic relationship with someone, someday… eventually. I would never speak against marriage, romance, or even True Love. But! What we see today, in our culture, is NOT real love, real marriage, or even real romance.
(I’ll get into all of that later on, lets go back to the topic at hand.)

I know… you’re probably thinking “Yeah, that’s great and all Danica, but if you’re wanting to get married, you don’t want to marry your brother, so didn’t you just contradict yourself?”
No, I have not, and I’m about to explain why.

I’m only using the family situation as an analogy, but I believe we are to consider each other as family until the time the Lord has for us to develop something deeper than just brother/sister between us.
If we have our eyes, hearts, minds, souls and emotions looking at others with a ‘brother/sister’ view point, then we remove the temptation to look at them with a fogged-over-romanticized view.
For if we ask God to change our hearts and work on our mindset, then our emotions and feelings follow.
Does that make sense?

I’ll be honest with you. -It’s not easy. πŸ˜‰
It’s something we have to work on. We constantly have to bring it to God asking for Him to, yet again, help us change our hearts.
I can assure you that if you ask Him, He will NOT refuse you. He promises to come when we invite Him in.
Matthew 7:7-8 says;
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.”
So if you ask Him, He will answer.

My challenge to you this week is to spend time in your Prayer Closets, pray that the Lord will help change your mindset and your heart so that your feelings and emotions follow.
Then make an extra effort, when you are tempted to think about a guy or girl that you ‘like’, to think of them as a brother/sister.

I cannot tell you how many times I have had people ‘tease me’ about a lot of my guy friends. They think it’s funny to play matchmaker with me and other guys I know.
Every time they do, I try to always respond with “EW!!! He’s my brother!”.
Try to respond to your own hearts that way, think of them as your brother or sister.

Keep each other strong in this! We’re all in this journey/fight together. Lets expose The Lies that our culture is teaching us about Love together, as brothers and sisters in Christ!

*hugs* Remember, I’m on this journey with you, I’m just a follower in this too. Christ is the leader, He is calling us to make a stand for what is right, pure and just!
Philippians 4:8 says: “ Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableβ€”if anything is excellent or praiseworthyβ€”think about such things.”

Until next time, I shall be praying for you all…
In Christ’s love and my own,

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Hello again my dear, dear girls!

I have a very deep and intense topic to discuss with you all. God has convicted me with this over the last week and He has brought light to so much that I have recently been blind to.
Before I jump headlong into this, I’d like to apologize ahead of time. I’m sorry if this offends you, that is the farthest thing from my intentions in this discussion. I truly am concerned for you all, and I feel like I MUST bring this to the surface, this lie has hidden itself in our culture for too long. God has laid this on my heart to speak out on it, so I will do whatever I have to do to get this said.

I love each and every one of you so very deeply,Β  please keep this in mind as you read ahead. Understand that I am not sitting here pointing fingers and accusing you, for I am to blame in this as well, but I am bringing this to you all in love and concern.
I am praying that you girls will be able to listen with open hearts and let God speak to you.
(Please stop to pray that God will show you what He wants you to see, before you read on.)

Now to business…
As I said before, God has convicted me deeply with this topic. It is so much more intense than I had first thought.
As we have grown up we have constantly been ‘fed’ the belief that romance, crushes, boyfriends, dating, holding hands, sex and falling in love is expected of you in your teen and young adult years. We have heard this from TV shows, Movies, Books, magazines, Music, Advertising, Friends and even some Family members. Everything we see/hear seems to be connected to sex, romance or relationships somehow.

We are so used to it that it starts getting to us. We start having crushes on our friends. We start looking at guys in magazines and think “Ohhh, he’s cute!”. We walk down the street checking out guys our age (or sometimes, not even that), appraising him with our eyes. We start giggling at our guy friends when they talk to us. We watch romance movies and wish that girl getting kissed by someone was us. We start dressing in ways that would get us noticed by ‘cool guys’. We read books with a hero who is seemingly ‘perfect’ and start day dreaming.
We have been contaminated with the world’s sin of want of romance!

Now I know you’re probably getting mad already saying “Ok Danica, what is wrong with crushes, boyfriends, dating wisely, and falling in love?”
And my answer to you is “Because they all are lies!”
They are distractions from the truth, they are keeping us from God’s time that He has given us as Godly single young ladies.
“How?” you ask.
In SO many ways!!!

#1- If we are thinking about a recent ‘Crush’ and our hearts and thoughts are concentrated on said cute boy, how can we be Servants of God and give Him all of us; heart, mind, and soul? God tells us to love Him with ALL of our hearts, and if we are giving our hearts away to random guys, we can’t give Him all of our hearts, just pieces of it because we have given it away the rest.
“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” ~Deuteronomy 6:5

#2- The Bible clearly says that thinking guys are hot, or having someone ‘catch your eye’, or even having a crush is LUST! I know that it seems like a simple thought about a guy being hot is not the same as ‘lust’, but the heart motivation is the same sin, there is NO getting around it in any way.
“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”Β  ~Matthew 5:28 (This says men, but it is the same way for women looking at men as well!)

#3- Simply day dreaming about a guy you know (or even don’t know) is allowing our hearts to be given before their time. It may not seem like it, we can argue against it all we want, but the truth is clear.
“Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart,” ~1st Peter 1:22

#4- God truly does call us to set ourselves apart from ‘The lies of love’ (boyfriends, dating, crushes… etc.). He tells us to stay away from it in this verse;
“So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” ~2nd Timothy 22:2

#5- Our hearts and feelings lie to us. God calls us to THINK and use wisdom in our relationships, instead of liking a fellow brother and letting that be ‘proof’ enough to claim love over him.
“And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.”Β  ~PhilippiansΒ  1:9-11

There are tons more references in the Bible where God is calling us to keep from the world’s lies of romance, passion, and love, these are just a few.

I’d like to hear your thoughts and ideas about this, after reading through these verses.
Before I let you all go, I’d like to apologize from the bottom of my heart for ever encouraging you in any of these ways. (crushes, boyfriends, looking at ‘hot guys’, laughing over actors who ‘look good’, or even day dreaming over future relationships.)
Until now, I had not realized just how serious this sin is. I am SO sorry, please forgive me, my dear friends.

I’ll come back with tons more, God has shown me SOOOO much, and is calling me to bring this out in the open, so I shall.
For now, I shall leave you girls to think and pray about this. Please feel free to comment!
*hugs to you all*
With all my love,

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Hey everyone,

I only have a moment, but I am asking you all to PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE pray for Miss Sara and Meg.

A dear family friend of theirs was in a car crash, and was killed. (She was only 19)

This was a HUGE shock to them and their whole family. Miss Sara is taking it especially hard. Please pray for peace for her whole family, and that they would be able to minister to the girl’s (who died) family. -They are not Christians, but she was.

Thank you all so much, I appreciate it beyond words!

In Christ,
~Miss Danica and Miss Laura

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*comes in out of breath* Oh my goodness! I am so excited right now!

God has been giving me tons of new ideas for Maidens of Modesty! -I just got done ‘brainstorming’ with Miss Laura (one of my ABSOLUTE best friends!) about what we could do to give it a makeover. πŸ˜€

I have been sort of tired of how it has been, lately. It’s not very fun to look around on, and we haven’t updated it very recently. *blushes* (yes, that is MY fault… I can’t blame it on anyone or anything.)

I just have felt like it needs a new look, and a lot of new things to do on it.
But before I go on and do what I want to it, I want to know what YOU girls think.

SO, how about it? What do you want to see change on Maidens of Modesty’s website?
What are you interested in seeing/hearing/learning about?
What are you struggling with, if anything, in being pure?
What do you want us to research that has to do with purity, modesty, and being Godly young women?
Do you want tips on guys?

Please, any ideas at all would be very much appreciated. πŸ™‚
And don’t be afraid that we won’t like your ideas, just be creative and go ahead and pour your heart out. πŸ˜€

I can’t wait to hear from you all…
*huge hugs to all you Maidens of Modesty*
In Christ,
~Miss Danica

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